Signs That You Are Ready For Big Life Changes
Life changes can be fun, exciting and oh, so welcome – like a new baby, new house, new job or getting married. These are changes that we welcome openly into our life.
But sometimes life throws us curve balls where we are forced to make a change due to a job redundancy, death in the family or an illness.
Change is hard either way and we resist it, because we don’t want to tolerate the uncertainty, risk and stress that accompanies change.
But most of us, trudge through life and hesitate to make big life changes voluntarily, when life is OK, but not spectacular. We tell ourselves, that we can’t have everything we desire and instead choose to tolerate life. We decide that ‘things aren’t that bad/terrible’.
This list, I hope will provide you the signs you need to decide whether or not you need to make a big life change sooner, rather than later. Don’t wait until the pain of where you are is excruciating.
So we opt for the discomfort that comes with maintaining status quo, rather than facing the discomfort of the unknown.
Most of my clients when they come to work with me, have tried putting up with the discomfort of tolerating the things that aren’t working in their lives. But over time, the discomfort has become far greater than the uncertainty that comes with making a big life change.
Life has started to feel like a chore everyday. Each day is a series of events that you are trying to get through with no passion or fulfillment
You look at the lives’ of others and feel envy but you are resigned to the fact that you will never be able to have that in your own life. This is a signal that you admire what they have and it’s possible for you too. You just need guidance, support and accountability to get there.
You feel drained and tired all the time. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This is a clear sign that you are running on empty and your daily actions are not fulfilling your cup. Make a small change to address one of the areas.
You live for the weekends – if you spend your time counting down till Friday and dreading Sunday evenings, it’s time for a change. Wishing away time is not the solution to a happier life. Make the change!
You are constantly angry and frustrated – the smallest things seem to set you off. You feel guilty because you tend to take it out on those closest around you but they also irritate the hell out of you. Anger and frustration rises from feeling stuck and powerless. Instead of knowing how to deal with it, you tend to take it out on others, because you are hurting.
You ask yourself “is this it? Is this all there is for the rest of my life?” – this was a question that daunted me often once I became a mother. As much as I loved my children and my chosen career at the time, I couldn’t comprehend that this is all my life would amount to. I needed to believe in something bigger than myself to work toward everyday.
You feel empty and disconnected from your current life – your relationships don’t feel in depth and rich, your work doesn’t fulfill you, you are not passionate about what you do. In fact, you are lost and wondering what your life was meant for. It’s time to turn inward and start asking those hard questions to find what and who lights you up.
You are desperate for something to change in your life – but you don’t want to make that change yourself. I had a friend once who fantasized about getting made redundant, but didn’t actually want to hand in her notice. The Universe constantly sends you nudges to make changes, like small pebbles being thrown at you. But don’t wait for a rock to land in your lap, in order to finally make that big life change.
You keep working harder but getting the same results – this was a hard pill for me to swallow. I kept working harder and harder in my business, but my results were not budging. That’s when I knew I had to start to make changes within me. It wasn’t about the outward actions, but how I felt about myself and how I perceived the world.
Change is hard. But choosing to live life somewhat unhappily is also hard.
I know that each one of us was born to create, do and be great things. We all have unlimited potential within us. Time and life experiences has made us believe otherwise.
Fear is your biggest roadblock right now. Fear of what will others think. Fear of “can I figure this out”. Fear of what if I fail. Fear of not being enough. Fear of not deserving a happy life. Fear that you won’t know what you are doing.
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